Thursday, September 07, 2006

I Have Learned Another Lesson

I'm sorry I have been so absent. I am not here today to tell a funny story. My heart is heavy. Someone that was very close in my life that I loved and thought of as a friend has betrayed me and hurt me deeply. I am shocked and confused.

Hateful and ugly words spewd from her mouth while she belittled me in front of an audience. I sat and listened. If I am proud of one thing, it is my self control. I did not stoop to that level, I did not reveal her inadequacies in front of others. When belittling me didn't break me down, she revealed a sacred secret. Hell, she even used a post in this blog against me.

The lesson I have learned is to not share so much of myself. I will not be so vulnerable and allow myself to get hurt this way again. I am ashamed and embarrassed I was played for such a fool.

To my once so called best friend, who loved me so much, I have a few parting quotes for you.

"Blowing out another's candle will not make yours shine brighter."

"It is human nature to hate him whom you have injured."

"The best revenge is a vow to never be like the one who hurt you."

"You may kill me with you hatefulness.
But still, like air, I rise."


Sorry for such a downer of a post. I will return soon with happy stories. I am thankful for triathlon training. Working out has helped me feel better during this difficult time. Don has even been coming to the gym and lifting weights with me to be encouraging. It's sometimes hard to choke down chicken breasts and protein shakes though. Tomorrow will be easier because I know that time will help heal my wound.

Happy, fun stories next time. I promise!




28 Comments:

At 10:55 AM, Blogger n.o.s. said...

That's horrible! Hurtful words always hurt that much more when they come from someone whom you've loved and trusted. :( I have to say you seem to be handling it better than most people (myself included) might. Hope you're able to cheer up soon!

 
At 1:39 PM, Blogger Bolder said...

i was just about to leave you a 'where you be?' comment -- thanks for checking in.

there are consequences in sharing, and being open with your life in blogland...

but, there are many vehicles in life that help you discover who your true friends are...

i'm sorry to hear that your friend has caused you pain.

 
At 2:36 PM, Blogger Julia said...

Sorry to hear about that - I've had a few "best friend" episodes that are now behind. They were really hurtful. BTW, you don't have to be happy here for us - I enjoy reading whatever you put up.

 
At 2:50 PM, Blogger Stillwater Heron said...

Hugs to you sister blogger!
I'm so sorry you were hurt by someone you cared about, that's just the worst..
I'll be keeping you in my thoughts..

 
At 4:10 PM, Blogger Jill said...

That is terrible.

That person must not be very happy with themselves if they have to pick on others.

It is too bad. I hate it when friendships turn sour.

 
At 4:43 PM, Blogger nancytoby said...

Ouch! I'm sorry. I can definitely relate with a few personal experiences. It's hard. Glad to hear from you, though.

 
At 5:03 PM, Blogger Flatman said...

That so sucks. I have had this done to me also. Good on ya for taking it like a (wo)man.

You are right...time will make this better. Only time.

Feel better!

 
At 5:29 PM, Blogger 21st Century Mom said...

Fie on that former friend - I am shaking my fist at her. I'm so sorry you got hurt.

I have a former BFF - a woman I have known since we were 12 - who is dead to me know. I didn't come by that resolve easily because 30+ years of friendship should be really hard to break but broke it she did. I was also so very, very hurt and I still get sad when I think about her and the things she said but I have risen above that and I know she was just so wrong. So very wrong. Betraying a confidence and bludgeoning someone with their own life is inexcusable and is surely the result of her own demons. It really isn't about you but of course your soul has become collateral damage. Again, I'm so sorry you are going through this.

 
At 9:05 PM, Blogger Papa Louie said...

Sorry to hear of your best friend causing pain in your friendship. You handled it well. And as a result you learned another lesson in life.

 
At 8:05 AM, Blogger Brett said...

Sorry to hear about that. I hope it all works out for the best. I, too, have been betrayed by my best friend. It hurts, but eventually, you have to forgive them in your mind and move on.

 
At 9:17 PM, Blogger Robin said...

Hey, sorry to hear. I am going through some hard times with my best friend now, too. It is not easy. It is very unfortunately that your friend did not talk to you one-on-one like and adult but ratehr blasted out "in frony of an audience". Shameful. Things must have to get better, Mojo. You haev a good attitude about it in your post. So when things aren't good, remember that they have to get better. They just do.

 
At 11:20 AM, Blogger E-Speed said...

Uggh I hate people like that. Why the hell does someone think putting another down does any good at all? And when it is a "friend", grr.

I hope you are doing okay, and that you realize how wonderful you are. You don't need friends like that, there are plenty of awesome people out there who want to lift you up, not bring you down.

 
At 9:24 PM, Blogger DaisyDuc said...

Sorry to hear that. Sounds as though you are handling it with grace.

Wishing you all the best,blogland friend!

 
At 10:58 AM, Blogger Kim said...

aw sweetie i'm so sorry that you are dealing with this. you're too great of a person to have such an ungrateful and disrespective as a friend. BIG HUGS.

 
At 9:22 AM, Blogger WADDLER26.2 said...

Sorry about your friend--Cheer up you have alot of hugs coming your way

 
At 9:48 AM, Blogger Sherri said...

M.O.J.O.!! I have been away from Blog Land and have totally missed you! I, too, am sorry to hear about the friend drama...hopefully you are feeling better about it all. Do, however, let me know if I need to come down South and put my foot down in the form of a butt whipping on somebody!

 
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